Do you know what it is like to suffer from low self esteem? Have you ever walked into a room with other people and felt like you did not belong, your mind preoccupied with “am I good enough”. Low self esteem manifests itself in our lives in many different ways. For me, it showed up in not putting forth 100% in life, or settling for second best. Low self esteem has shown up as procrastination, fears of moving forward, self sabotage and manifesting “friends” that were overbearing and demanding of my time.
Reflecting back in my life I realized I suffered from low self esteem for a very long time. In general I had a poor image of myself and placed little value on my self worth. I must admit I, hid it very well. I never made outward statement of negativity towards myself and I was usually upbeat and positive about life, however the negative self talk was enough to keep the inner cycle of violence alive and well within me.
This brings me to how I began to change my mind and thus, changed my life. It was not a fast process, in fact the process of self development and self improvement never ends and the end goal becomes less and less important. This was actually one of the first steps in the process of changing my mind and healing my low self esteem, do not focus on the end result, focus on the journey.
The second step was to make a commitment to heal, not fight, nor conquer my feelings of worthlessness. Healing implies that I am seeking a peaceful solution. I seek to collaborate with myself, not beat myself up further. Healing also implies that even though the inner wounds have healed over, there may be times when it is tender and will need my attention again.
The third step which helped me to heal my low self esteem was to introduce a new set of spiritual life tools. In order to introduce new tools I had to learn them. This meant that I going to have to research, ask questions and begin to share my “secret” that I did not have it all together.
As you can imagine I have been on this journey a very long time and I have no intentions of getting off this trail now. It has been extremely rewarding, so much that I have created a Life Coaching practice to support others in their healing journey. You may be surprised to know that there are many Healers, like myself that have suffered and suffer from low self esteem. There is a significant amount of shame associated with being a Practitioner and admitting that you suffer from some of the same challenges you are supposed to be helping others with. Consider getting on this trail of wholehearted living with me. I assure you, you will NOT find the pot of gold at the end of your trail, you WILL however, find your gold pieces all along the way.
Chonteau will be facilitating a day workshop on Jan 10, 2015 titled: Change Your Mind Change Your Life ~ The Power of Creative Visualization. She will share many of the Spiritual life tools she has learned and utilized over the last 24 years to heal her low self esteem and other challenges. Chonteau left her career as a Social Worker to pursue her passions of supporting, educating and empowering Healers and others to live wholeheartedly. She has also started a virtual holistic herbal academy, Intuitive Herbal Mentor where she empowers women to awaken to the herbalist within.