My Inner Family

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In my early twenties I began to explore my inner world.  I learned my inner world was the world behind my eyes.  My father used to tell me my inner world was my mind.  This was I place I could make sense out of chaos.  For him “traveling” into the depths of his mind was his way to find understanding. I followed his lead and began to explore my mind as a place to make sense of my life.

My journey lead me to a little book titled Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain.  It was through her teachings I learned about my  “inner family” or my parts. In those early days of my exploration I called my parts my spirit guides, however as years went on and I evolved in my understanding I came to know my spirit guides as my parts.

My parts can be described as different personas or archetypes that live inside of me.  I often view them as my inner family members.  Sometimes they get along and other times they are at odds. When they work together my life seems to move smoothly. However when my inner family is experiencing conflict or not working together then I may feel stagnant or stuck.

For example, if I want a new job and there is an opportunity in front of me, but I do not take advantage of it because I feel conflicted between wanting to move forward and staying where I am at,  I might feel overwhelmed and  frustrated, thus causing me to not make a decision.  This in turn causes more internal dialogue that may be negative.  If however, I choose to view this inner conflict as my inner child being very scared to move forward and not feeling safe with new things, this might explain why my inner child is sabotaging new opportunities. By looking at this situation through the lens of parts work I can now have a focus for my inner healing work.

This is a very abbreviated way of explaining parts work, however it has been through this type of self study that I have moved beyond many barriers, healed old wounds and gained self confidence. I use the  parts work model  with other lifestyle techniques with most of my clients and they have seen amazing results with self transformation.

My intention for sharing this information is, for you to  begin to learn other ways of coping with life’s stressors.  The more ways we have to cope with our life’s hurdles the better. Consider these helpful hints when exploring your inner family or parts:

  1. Read fairy tales and fables.  Ask yourself what characters do your resonate with and why.
  2. Begin to meditate daily.  The practice of exploring your inner world will help you connect with your parts.
  3. Keep a journal and start writing down your inner dialogue.  Read what you write  because hidden in your dialogue are your parts speaking to one another.

Our inner world is vast and mysterious, it is not about mastering my mind but embracing  the possibilities of understanding what resides there. As Angeles Arrien says, “become a good tracker of your life” happy exploration everyone.

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Author: Chonteáu

Often called a Modern Day Medicine Woman, Chonteau offers soul support and guidance to her clients. She specializes in soul retrieval, archetypical and deep soul work. She mainly supports Lightworkers and healers feel more grounded and centered while balancing their practices and their personal lives.

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